Guys, When You

• When you, ask me out and then start a serious relationship in the same week - you make me feel like garbage.
• When you, are dating but text me to flirt, sext, and/or whatever you thought might happen - you make me feel like the other woman. Trash to be exact.
• When you, are "happily married" but you tell me that if you weren't you'd marry me - you make me feel like I'm just never good enough. 
• When you, were my friend first, before your girl cheated on you, but stopped talking to me because now she's the insecure one - you make me heartbroken for the past. 
• When you, repeatedly attempt to flirt with me and I don't play along, then allow your woman to attack me like I did something - you make me feel like I never knew who you really were. 
• When you, pop up when I'm in a relationship and act like I'd actually come back to you and your lies and cheating ways - you make me annoyed.  
• When you, use me for an ego boost and then disappear for months - you make me empowered to never do it again.
• When you, have to hide your messages from your girl - you make me relieved that I wasn't the one who ended up with you.
• When you, express how unhappy you are with her because she treats you terrible - you make me shrug my shoulders because you're the one who stays.
• When you, compare her to me and express your wishes - you make me confirmed that I've made the right decisions by not settling. 

Date with the intent to marry.

Date without sacrificing your morals. 

God needs to be first in your life and your relationships or all of the above with forever be your life. But it won't be mine.

I will not date a man who does not have God as a priority. No exceptions, I just won't do it again. It doesn't end well for my soul nor my heart. 

For all the negative ways guys have made me feel thru the above experiences, I've actually put a stop to it some time ago. 95% of women are all the same. No matter how gross I look, no matter how much I prove that I don't play into their guys fantasies or desires, no matter how much I remain platonic, I will always be the blonde hair, blue eye, flashy smile, girl that makes them wonder if I really am the other woman or not. I've even been in group settings where I am just conversant with a guy because he happened to be seated next to me at an event and his woman was so threatened that she was sure to pee in a circle around him and claim her property. I feel sorry for her, for you.

I'm not your run to fantasy. I'm not your old familiar flavor. I'm not a piece of meat. I get it, I was a lot more fun when I drank, but in my sobriety I've found peace, I've found myself, I've found I am an amazing woman to be with and it is in fact you who is missing out.

Ladies, I am sorry for these are your guys. I am sorry because I've been you, I've been with that guy who dates me but does all this behind me. I am sorry but know, I am not your enemy.


My verse for this blog is Joel 2:25