Before the year started I had a conversation with a good friend about dating. We were discussing how it would be really nice for me to enter into a relationship this year after being single all of 2015, and having made some really good changes for myself. Like most people who are single at the beginning of any new year, I've been pondering the thought of trying online dating again. However, I know exactly what's there to offer and thanks, but no thanks. Plus it's not like I don't have guys that I'm interested in, there's just some things in the way.
Today my mom asked me if I've tried online dating. Yes, I have mom. Remember the guy I was dating for a couple years who wanted me to move in with him, except he was buying VS items and jewelry for another woman at the same time. Or the guy who told me he was a skin head after the second date. Or the guy who called me prude because I wouldn't make out with him, in public, in front of kids, on the first date. And most importantly, don't forget about all the guys in between who I've chatted with (or haven't wanted to chat with), who only end up ghosting me before and sometimes after all is said and done.
I find it very hard to take any guy seriously who only texts me between the hours of 11 pm and 4 am, only to see if I'm up for, well you know. I don't want to get into any solid relationship with someone who doesn't have any values outside of the midnight drinking scene.
Not everyone is married. Not everyone has children or multiple of them. Not everyone looks forward to when they can party next. There are some of us out there who are in their 30's, with priorities, who know what they're looking for, and more importantly, what we aren't looking for.
Society is too focused on sex, money, status, and what someone does for a living that we're missing out on the people who are honest, loyal, and willing to give a commitment. We've thrown our values in the garbage so that we can live recklessly. I can't focus on the money you earn, the car you drive, or the newest gadget you just had to have, if you're a complete jerk to a stranger on the street. If you can't have compassion and compromise, if you can't stay faithful; you're material possessions just won't impress me.
Now, if you're a romantic, that will impress me and melt me. If you value a woman's worth, if you carry good and traditional values, if you're faithful, all of those will impress me till the end.
Online dating.....ahhh the rock and the hard place. Where do you meet people other than a bar when you aren't in the bar scene? Everyone turns to online dating but it's also the most frustrating place. I go back and forth on it but I find it's not good for much other than satisfying a need for quick attention (sometimes you just need someone to say you're beautiful). Let me know if you find the answer as to where all the good guys are hiding. I feel your pain!
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