Hello, my name is Single

I am not your Netflix and chill girl. I hate the fact that that has become the term for hooking up. Some of us, legitimately just want to hang out and watch some random stuff. Honestly, if I'm going to Netflix and chill, it's going to be by myself, where I can unwind and watch whatever I want to watch uninterrupted.

I am not the girl that you can call in the middle of the night. I'm not the girl that will be your secret, and I'm certainly not the girl you can love while you date someone else. My value is worth more than that. I don't want to be mocked for the things I enjoy, the compassion I have for my friends, or shamed for how easily pleasure comes to me and how often I want it to.

I am the girl that wants to be asked out, the girl that wants you to be able to make a decision, tell me when to be ready, and be able to take control of a situation. I am the girl that will meet you for brunch, instead of the bar or club only after the veil of darkness has fallen. I am the girl that enjoys flea markets, going to church, road trips, trying new foods, places, and experiences that I'm able to share with other people. I'm the girl who likes to cook and give thoughtful gifts, the girl who likes to dance in the kitchen and plan out new adventures to try, and the girl who wants to laugh about me jumping out of a plane although we still never know if I'll ever actually do it. I'm the girl that wants to see the things you enjoy and learn to maybe enjoy them with you. I want someone who can take me outside of my comfort zone, and I do the same for them. 

I am also the girl that has goals, that is focused on making sure that I raise a child that succeeds in life, and the girl that will not be stuck in one place for the rest of her life. I'm the girl who has experienced relationships to their fullest to know that the value of a good partnership is incredibly important, and that each person has to work to make sure their partner is happy. I'm the girl that can raise children, have a career or stay home, cook and clean while I'm building furniture. I've been solo long enough to know how to survive and thrive on my own, but also I know that when that right one comes along, he'll be cherished with classic values, the way our grandparents and their parents lived by.

I'm the girl that wants to be free to get tattooed but see the strength of someone who can carry me over the puddles of life. My heart's still not whole from losing my brother, but every last piece pours out more love than you could ever know. I work hard to be good to myself so that I'm better for those around me.