I think when you hit a certain age, I'd say the age of about right now, the word baby needs to be reviewed. I can't say whether men or women are more at fault for the misuse of this word, but I see it all too often enough that we should talk about it.
I'm in my thirties as most of my friends are, some are nearing forty if they're not looking, however when I see a photo or I'm introduced to someone and you lead with, "This is my baby", I feel the incessant need to just walk away. I don't know if you're introducing me to your child who is either a teenager or coming close or if you're introducing me to your significant other. Kids these days look older than they should because society is forcing them to grow up before it's time for them to, as well as there's the fact that we're old.
If that's your child, by all means follow up with, "Well he/she isn't such a baby anymore". If that's your significant other, PLEASE just don't. The pet name of baby isn't a bad one in itself, it's a kind term of endearment but as an introductory piece, it should probably be avoided. Introducing someone and tagging them with a title is a case by case basis. I'm one who personally doesn't need a title to know who I am, there are others though that implode if they aren't given one. One however, does not need the title of baby as a leading role.
When women push to look younger and girls push to look older, it's understandable how lines can get crossed. The line I don't want you to cross is being an adult dating a child. Which is exactly what I think when your introductory is "baby". If we all must conform to labels, let us at least agree to keep the labels accurate if possible.
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