I can't understand why people have children when they can't take care of them. Do not create human beings if you cannot stand to take care of them. To say that it's a lot to take care of them and work, is pretty much one of the most ignorant things you can say to another parent. I'm sorry, are you the only one who has ever had to raise children while working?! Hang on, I need to run out and get you a flipping participation trophy apparently.
Having children takes sacrifices that you never thought any human would ever have to make. It means putting yourself and your needs last because there is someone else who counts on you to put them first. It means above all else being there for them, protecting them, providing for them, and loving them. Being a parent means that you no longer get to act a fool, be a poor example, or get up and walk away whenever the going gets tough.
Go ahead and say it with me, you feel completely trapped by your child. Let me guess, you're no longer with the other parent, you're unhappy with where you are, and you want to move somewhere you know you will be happier within your own life. I get it, I've been trapped in a state for 11 years that I hate. Every single day I dream of the day I don't have to be here, but also, every single day I have overwhelming joy knowing that I didn't just abandon my child to fulfill my own selfish needs.
Children, our offspring, those tiny little human beings are the next generation. They are who we will need when we're old and we can no longer be self sufficient, they are the boys who will date our daughters or the daughters who will marry our boys. If you are a terrible example of an adult, how do you think they will grow up? Who do you think they will become? If you can't show them hard work, sacrifice, dedication, and respect - not just to them but to their other parent, then how can you ever expect them to grow up into any sort of a decent human being?!
Get over yourself and fight for the well being of the little person that you helped create. If you can't do that, then STOP. Stop getting down and making more of them that you'll only neglect as well. It sucks being a parent, it sucks shelving the life you had that was carefree and reckless; but being a parent is also the single most magnificent thing in the world if you're doing it right.
Being trapped or not, frustrated, beaten down, and depressed has no comparison to the enormous amount of love, admiration, dedication, and desire I have to see my child be the absolute best human being she can be.
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