Settling for Mediocrity

The problem today is that we settle. We settle for mediocre candidates to run this country, we settle for jobs that make us miserable therefore we pass on that misery to people we come in contact with, and we settle for relationships that don’t help us grow just so that we won’t feel alone; we settle when our real problem is that we do it because we ultimately don’t love ourselves enough to wait for the best. 

Let’s start with the election and I’ll make this quick because frankly, there is already too much nonsense surrounding it. We are being forced to choose between two candidates whom neither are qualified for the position nor can really be trusted to do what is best for all of us. I really want to know how anyone, especially all of these celebrities who are endorsing Clinton after she clearly committed crimes. How do you endorse someone and just look the other way to their crimes? I am truly perplexed at how this happens. Today I saw a cartoon of Trump that I think is a clear depiction of how it would go if he was President. It depicts Trump sitting at a desk as president with two button options in front of him. The first button reads Tweet and the second button reads Nuke. I couldn't find the picture to post but that's all there was to it. I know you could see this being him while sitting at his desk too. I would have liked to see Sanders have a shot, I thought he had a pretty good head on his shoulders, but by no means was I a #feeltheBern wagon rider, however since he’s now completely compromised his morals and supports Clinton, forget all of that nonsense. So here we are, settling between two people whom neither should be allowed to run this country. 

I think because we’re forced into settling from even the highest forms of decisions, it then flows down into other areas of our lives. We then settle for mediocre jobs. Now, don’t get me wrong, there have been many times that I’ve settle for crap jobs because I had to, I had to do it to survive, to pay bills, and to put food on the table; however, with that being said, while I may have settled, it never once stopped me from striving to learn more and continue searching for a job that I could stand behind and be proud of. Currently working and doing things that I love while working for a man whom understands that giving back is what it's really about. While our print and promo does give 50% of profits back to charities, he’s also launching a company that focuses around wear one – share one (stay tuned for a huge push of that). I am in love with the fact that we can not only donate money to world renowned charities, but through this new endeavor we can also give to orphanages across the world! I know that too often in life we must do things we don’t always want to do just to survive, but remember that even if that may be true, you control the portion to learn more, expand your knowledge through asking questions and being trained in other areas, and continue to look for something that makes you truly happy. 

Then while doing all of that, please for the love of all, do not settle for a mediocre relationship. There is nothing more cumbersome for people in your life than to read on social media or hear in person about how completely unhappy and then “in love” you are all within the same day. Relationships are never easy, there are no perfect ones, and each one takes work; but you cannot be successful in any relationship, if you yourself aren’t complete and full of self-love. No one will ever be able to love you like you can love yourself. You have to be happy, successful, and content with being alone and never rely on someone to complete you. If you’re looking for someone to fix you, or complete you, all you’re doing is creating a bigger mess. You absolutely shouldn’t settle for someone who doesn’t make you happy, never settle for someone who can sleep at night after saying horrible name calling things to you and making you cry. No one is ever worth your tears unless they’re sick and ailing, or they’ve died and you miss their presence in your life. Why would you want to be with someone who makes you sad?!? 

Being with someone should be a joy, it should be able to give you a new view on life, and lead you on to experience things that you might not do on your own; even if it’s just a new movie or tv show. If you’re going to settle for something less than the best, be sure that no one in your life wants to hear about it when it’s imploding in your face, because that my dear, you’ve done to yourself. It’s okay to be alone, I’ve been single and alone since December of 2014 and while I’ve been on dates, and I’ve tried to date, let me be sure to tell you that none of them have ever been able to come close to what I know I deserve in life. They may be great guys for other girls, but I know exactly what I want and what I deserve and I refuse to settle for less than that, and you shouldn’t either. 

If it helps, sit down and write out a list, make two columns and write down your likes and dislikes. From there, figure out then things that you can live with and those that are hard lines for you. For example, a hard line for me is someone who doesn’t believe in God. I can’t be with someone on a long term basis whom I can’t feel comfortable sitting next to in church, and trust me, even some of the most “Godly” looking men can make you feel uncomfortable in church. I remember some who I knew in my heart, may believe in God but ultimately they have bad hearts. That’s another one of my hard lines, someone with a rude heart and a closed mind. Oh and picky eaters! Seriously, a very hard line for me is someone who is a picky eater. The world has way too much to offer for me to experience it with someone whom refuses to try new things. So those are just a few of my hard lines. Your hard lines don’t need to be the same nor anywhere near close to mine but you should know what they are. 

Our lives are far too short for any of us to settle for anything in life that is less than what we deserve. While yes, settling sometimes is forced upon us and out of our control, what isn’t out of our control is striving to reach beyond those moments and striving to have the best in our lives. We control our lives, and it’s time we start working towards those better moments. Be happy. I don’t know a single person who loves to be unhappy. So work harder, get a grip, and stop settling for less than you deserve.